As I was on the set recently of a new HBO series, “Vice Principals,” I had an interesting conversation with a fellow background actor who is also a writer and whom really got me thinking about this very blog I call my own. One sentence he said that really stuck with me was this: “I was always weary about writing about dating because then it seems like I have all of the answers and I don’t;” I couldn’t agree more with him.
This really got me thinking that maybe it sounds like I’m someone who knows it all about the dating world because I have had so many interesting experiences of every kind you could possibly imagine, but I still feel lost in it all and know that I really don’t have all of the answers; that writing about dating and getting feedback from my readers really is what helps me understand it better while putting all of this nonsense into perspective for me. I mean who likes a know-it-all, right?
I find it extremely intriguing in itself, that someone who writes an awful lot about dating can’t get it right herself; I mean I feel like people are like, “Who wants to listen to that bitch, she writes like she knows it all, but is as single as it gets…who eats pizza by themselves?” People always ask me if I masturbate because c’mon I have been single for t-minus pretty much my whole life, but who is counting?; and, of course, the answer to that question is no every time…why would I masturbate if I could choose any man I wanted to do my dirty work, the power of being single right? Noooo, wrong, very wrong.
You see here is the problem with that; I’m not all about that one night stand, Friends with Benefits non-sense. I think we all have relationships goals, male and female, we just want different things at different times in our lives…I.E. men mature slower so they tend to take their time more with finding the right person vs. a woman who knows what she wants and when she wants it. So, no, I may not have all of the answers, but I sure as hell know what I want at least. I feel like I’ve been through so much in the world of dating, I thought I’d share my thoughts and enjoy getting feedback on these situations because a lot of us are lost and a lot of us have been hurt; it’s nice to know other people share your struggles and can relate to you on some level. It really is hard continuously putting yourself out there and getting taken advantage of, but that’s sadly the way it works; have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince, right? It is extremely important to take a lot of time for yourself if you don’t know what you want; I have spent years in the single life, and although it can get lonely, it is crucial in knowing exactly what you want so you can avoid all of the things you see in someone that you know can’t make you happy.
So, let’s all stick together, give advice and opinions, and work our way on road that allows us to be happy; not sit at home, depressed and eating a tub of delicious ice cream while crying and screaming at the t.v….although, that does sound very tempting right about now. Cheers until next time:)
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